What the .....?!?

So a few weeks ago about a month ago, I met up with someone I thought was my friend. This was guy that I had talked to on facebook for a while and had got to know through facebook via chatting on the messenger or talking on the phone. Initially, he seemed like a cool person that I could get to know and become friends with. We would debate about things our differences of opinion about religion, relationships, marriage, life, general stuff. So of course I thought he would be a cool person to get to know off line. Or so I thought.

Now mind you I was clear with this person that we were friends, I never made any attempt to be or get into a relationship with him as it was never my intention toward him. (keep that in mind) So anyway, I think I'm too nice at times, really, I need to learn how not to be "nice" in a nice way, whatever that means. (Does that make sense?). So I happened to be talking to him on the phone about the movie I wanted to see Why did I get married 2 by Tyler Perry. He was pessimistic about it, which now that I think about it he really never had a lot of nice things to say about anything and always want to "debate" what he thought was right. At any rate, that has nothing to do with what I'm talking about here, back on topic. So I told him that I was going to see the movie and I thought since we had been talking on the phone and on facebook for some time it would be a good way to meet in person. Since essentially it's wasn't a "date" type of enviornment, at least not to me. So I asked him if he wanted to come, he said he would come, but when the clock struck "movie time" he had all kind of excuses why he couldn't make it. Whatever, so I went to the movie anyway because I was going whether he wanted to go or not.

The next day, why I agreed to this I have no idea maybe I was caught up on the idea of finally putting a face to the name/person I had been debating with and talking to all this time. Anyway, we talked on the phone the next day via text, of course I got on him for his lame excuses as to why he couldn't show up to the movies after I cut my toe going into the movie theater (another story for another day). At any rate, we decided to meet up and since he didn't show up to the movie the night before I told him that he would have to pay for dinner, he asked me where I wanted to go so I told him. Now when it came time to meet at the restraunt this guy was not there at all. Remember I said I was too nice. Well I am because I ended up waiting over 45 min for him to show up at the place after I had planned to leave 30 min into waiting. I swear I need to learn to just leave when my intincts tell me. So as I'm in line ordering my food to go, this guy comes up behind me and taps me on the shoulder and introduces himself. I tell him, hey I'm leaving, I've waited long enough, so he proceeds to tell me that he already got a table and "convinces" me to stay.

OMG, why did I do that. Anyway, so we had dinner, ( the food I ordered I had sent back and got my money back, my thinking is this you ask me to stay, ok I'll stay and you'll pay, and that he did). Okay so I did this on purpose because I waited over 45 min for him, I ordered, what I really wanted off of the menu, yes it was way more expensive than what I ordered before, but whatever, you make me wait and ask me to stay after I decided to leave, you pay (so I decide to get "tough" with it all after the fact that I know I've been too "nice" at this point). So the next day he decides to text me because I had left him a voicemail message telling him I was leaving, actually about 2 or 3 messages because I thought he wasn't going to show up. So he texts me telling me that I'm funny of course he is being sarcastic. So we end up talking on the phone about it and this fool want's to argue about him being late and tried to convince me that I was late. At that point I was threw completely and just hung up the phone because I don't have time for foolishness, anymore.

I should have just left the resturaunt when I had the first initiative to do it 15 min into waiting for him to show up. This fool decided to post a bunch of "anonymous" comments about our meeting and was using it as comedic anecdotes. I knew he was talking about me a few of the comments I let slide because hey I can turn the other cheek, but when he added the comment with an acronym that had the letter "B" in it that clearly meant the "B" word, it was on and poppin then. I don't care who you are, you will not call me a "B" and get away with it.

So needless to say I sent him a letter (privately) on facebook advising him that I didn't appreciate being called that name, in so many words. Why did I do that.... It turned into a fiasco of sorts. Finally long story short I had to block that fool from my facebook and phone. Crazy. I should have known, but the "nice" side of me wanted to see the brighter side and believe that he couldn't possibly be that crazy. Lesson learned to say the least.

The moral of this situation, at least what I walked away and learned from it is this, when you see a red flag, RUN as fast as you can! Even if he is just a friend, a  red flag is a red flag, period.

Be blessed and a blessing to others, but be wise don't waste your time with fools. Learn from my experiences, your time is more precious than that and life is too short to waste it.

~Love Always~
Ms. 30 somethin and lovin it!

Anyway......Just keep it Movin!

It's been a while since my last post. Things have been crazy busy. But that's how life is when you are focused on building your dream. So in the process of focusing on that I've had to face a few challenges to say the least. First Let me say that things have been quite interesting lately and I have experienced some stuff that I need to talk about. I hope you will allow me to be candid and open because yeah some stuff is quite comical while other stuff is not.

Life always has different shifts and changes that take place that may catch you off guard or prepare you for the next place in life. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that you will always meet people that will either help you get to the next level in your life or push you toward your destiny. Which ever the case, each lesson you learn along the way is in essence priceless, really.

So, in light if that I want to talk about something that has been on my mind lately.......Crazy folks! You know people who are absolutely crazy and don't have their head on completely straight. It's funny how when you are pursuing your passion, or even seeking to find your passion for life, the thing that makes you happy and brings you joy, that you will come across the craziest people who have no other agenda but to tear down your vision/dream.

It's like wait, hold on, stop, push the breaks here! These are the type of people that will stop at nothing but to see you fail. All they want is to rip apart your vision, dreams, goals, or even you as a person just so they can feel like they have achieved a higher status than you. However, if you haven't learned by now, people like that are just crazy as hell. You will never get ahead in life or anything by being vicious toward other people. I have always wondered why people waste their time and energy on plotting against other people. It's a waste of time, all the time, effort, and energy that they put toward that could essentially be used for a better purpose than to breed hatred, anger, frustration, into the world.


I have found that I have less patience for people like that. I'm a firm believer that once you hit your 30's and are well into you 30's it's like the "I care about everything people think about me" switch in your brain is completely shut down and exorcised out of your brain. Literally. At least for me, that's how it's been. I have found I have a low tolerance for foolishness. The more people decide that they want to participate in foolishness and keep foolishness going on and on and on, the less I'm interested in remaining in their company. I'm sorry but I don't have time for fools and foolishness. Those of you that agree, can I get an AMEN! For real.

Anyway, I said all of that to say this at this point in my life I'm totally like "whatever and anyway" to all of the crazy people in the world who live in their bubble of hatred, anger, and frustration. Life is too short to focus on being negative about everything. Besides being positive is much better and brings joy to others.

I told my friend the other day that when crazy people start commenting or approaching me that I literally say "bless them Jesus" and I really mean it. Bless you and keep it movin cause I really don't have time to dabble in your foolishness.

My moto for the day on that, is "keep it movin I don't have time for you and you foolishness, Bless ya Jesus!" So next time someone wants to bring their negativity around you and tear you down, just bless them and keep it movin cause you don't have time to deal! For real!

~Love Always~

Ms. 30 Somthin & Lovin it!

Gratitude will open doors for you

Gratitude is definitely something that should be expressed on a daily basis. Expressing, showing, or feeling grateful/gratitude is essential to remaining in a state of humility. Being grateful for what you have now, the small things that you have, will open the doors for greater blessings. Just like the bible says despise not the days of small beginnings, by walking in the state of gratefulness God can bless you with the desires of your heart. Gratitude for what you have along with humility will take you a long way in life. Start with telling God thanks each day for simply waking you up and giving you air to breath; thank Him for giving you the activity of your limbs, thank God for allowing you to see another day. Starting with being grateful for the simple things that God gives you will open greater doors for you. So just be grateful because there is always someone who has less than what you have.

~Tamishia~

Get a Free Website

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New things

So I started this blog to talk about being 30 something and my life experiences. Well lately I've been totally focused on getting healthy and losing weight. I've been doing pretty good with my progress and as I learn new things I blog about it on my website, http://fatburnfurnace2010.weebly.com. Along with learning new things about weight loss, eating healthy, exercising, and overall better living, I've been learning new things about building an online business.

In the process of learning how to do business online a lot of things have peaked my interest including internet marketing, affiliate marketing, and SEO. Since I started looking into this I've learned some really cool things like how to create a free website, how to to create my own blog, how to sign up to be an affiliate (which is free), and a lot more. So needless to say, because I'm so focused on learning as much as I can, I have been buried in information and have experienced a little information overload. Yet, I am happy because I am actually learning about something that will help me do better business in the long run.

So in the process of learning, like I said above I created this website http://fatburnfurnace2010.weebly.com and created a blog about losing weight with tips on things you can do to help you retain your weight loss and gain life long success. I am excited about it and I would like for anyone and everyone who is reading this blog to please check it out and let me know what you think about the website, leave a comment on the site check out the links too.

Also because I am focused on obtaining my weight loss goals I have a challenge for everyone that I'd like to put out there. I'd like to have as many people as possible join me in my journey as a source of encouragement and motivation to one another. So here is the challenge/goal: I'd like for at least 1000 people both men and women to join me in this process go to my blog/website http://fatburnfurnace2010.weebly.com and respond to my blog post Weight Loss Challenge and join me in my quest to achieve my weight loss goals.



HERE'S TO SUCCESS AND HAPPY WEIGHT LOSS!

Comfortable In Your Own Skin!

I must say there is something about being 30 something years old that is way different than being 20 something. For me and many of my friends and acquaintances my 20's were really a time of self discovery, self improvement, sometimes self searching, and soul searching. I found that when I was in my 20's I allowed whatever anyone said to me or about me affect who I "presented myself" to be to others. For instance, I always thought that I would have been married with at least 2 or 3 children by the time I was 26 years old. Yet, as I got older, the years passed, and guess what, I'm not married and don't have any children. There used to be a time that I thought maybe there was something wrong with me even people I know questioned me as to "why" I wasn't married with children yet. But now that I'm 30 something I realize that even though I thought I was ready for a major responsibility of marriage and children in my 20's, I really wasn't. Yeah I was insecure for a little while in my late 20's and thought the world would end if I wasn't married by the time I was 30 years old. But guess what? The world didn't end, as a matter of fact things became more clear to me. For the first time in my life I became comfortable in my own skin as a woman. I finally became happy with me, who I am, and what I represent. There is something that happens to your consciousness after turning 30 that is remarkable. It's like you no longer care about what people or society says you "should" be. You begin to realize that you are great just as you are and you stop worrying about what hasn't happened yet and just live your life. You realize that LIFE really is a journey of discovery and things really do happen in the right timing. I think now at the age I am today, I am more comfortable and stable about myself as a woman and therefore I am able to make rational and effective decisions rather than emotional driven decisions. Being 30 something is awesome and I'm excited about living this journey called LIFE. Aren't you? Listen ladies and gentlemen, take time to love you, who you are, and all that encompasses you, that's a little of what getting older and wiser is all about.